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The Mind Set - Can you relate to any of this, or even just some of this??
This downward spiral can continue until I literarily don’t want to wake up and live my life. This is not a way to live. I have completed my 90 Days Til Redemption program several times, and I thought I would share this last journey through the program in the hopes that you, too dudes, would benefit.
First thing I did was to do an inventory of my current bad habits. I looked at the reasons why I lived this way and I listed them.
- Drinking. Am I an alcoholic? I sometimes find myself having a drink every day. Not in the morning, but at night after work to relax. I also realized that there was always a reason to drink- whether it was a social event or a reward I thought I was entitled to. I discovered that drinking was a daily habit in my life like brushing my teeth. When I drank I became a dick: in the morning I was angry, tired and not happy.
- Spending Stupidly. When I am not trying to pursue an acting or writing career, I am a bartender. Most of the money I make comes from tips, so I always have cash in my hand. For some reason, money hates me or I hate money. I don’t save and I spend on stupid things like booze, smokes, woman, food I convince myself I need and gambling. I pay my bills when I need to pay them, and I don’t put anything away.
- Poor Diet. I eat what I want and in turn I have a belly. I wasn’t always fat. I used to be in shape. I watched what I ate. But that all changed, and I became accustomed to eating what I want when I want it. I just turned 40. Not surprisingly, my doctor says that I have high blood pressure and cholesterol and that I need to make changes.
- Not enough exercise. There are days I love to work out. Then there are days where I like to chill on the couch after a hard day’s work. There is no consistency in this. When I work out, I have an energy that enables me to go that extra mile. However in order to get that energy I need a few weeks in the gym to get there.
- Smoking when I shouldn’t be. Because I work in a bar, many of my friends and coworkers smoke around me. I only smoke when I drink. But when my drinking increases, so does my smoking. When I am in one of my downward spirals I find smoking becomes part of my day, every day.
- Recreational drugs. If somebody has a joint, I may take a puff. If I am sore from working out and someone has a Vicoden I may ask for one. But when I participate, I am completely shot the next day.
- Gambling. I love playing poker, but I suck at it. I might as well give my money to the other players before I start.
- No career actions. At times, I just feel like I am just living life and not pursuing my career toward acting. I work hard at my bartending job, and it is sometimes difficult to use that energy toward acting sometimes.
- Not being Creative. Everybody needs to be creative and inspire themselves in some way. Sometimes, I know that I don’t recharge my batteries like I should by taking an acting class or writing something. I don’t push myself. It can get to the point where I don’t even cook- and I love to cook! I know things are bad when I start ordering take-out.
Table of Contents -
Prologue
“The Mind Set”
The Tools
Day 1
Day 2
Mr. Angry
The Financial Plan
The Weekend Warrior
Practice Pages
Week Two- Setting up Days to Remember
Living up to the challenge
The “Me Day”
It Takes 8
From Introvert to Extrovert
The Big Fear
The First 30 Days
Conquering Those Big Fears
Dating and The Significant Other
Finding the Happy Medium-The Halfway Point
The Marathon Man
The Vacation Test
What’s in it for me?
The New Normal
The Clean Slate Theory
Redemption
Day 90
Day 91